boundaries and directions for a relationship?
my personal boundaries " I will give what I am given in return, if my partner chooses to be with me she has to accept me for who I am, and I her. in our early part of our relationship I was the one always saying sorry even though I sometimes didn’t know what I had done (I was only 15) and this continued through many more years until we split I won't go into details other too say the grass isn't always greener somewhere else. I was left in pieces I gave love and when I asked for some back it turned into a row we as humans are very emotionally and complexes we inherit good and bad habits from our parents and media and friends etc however in the romantic film they never really explain happily ever after........... what is happily ever after..............?
Good question well that depends on you as an individual as well as your partner and then between the two of you, you find that ground of happiness.
well for me I am very greedy
anyhow that’s when I started to rebuild myself as a person and if a partner wanted my love they would have to give it, after about 6 months of my partner begging me to go back to her. I did but I had changed and the strangest thing happened at first she didn’t like the new jay defiant and doing has as he pleased, but then she began to respect me for it although my strength grew dramatically now as time goes on and we mature with age we understand more but I am afraid you have to push your love all the way to the edge of any boundaries, even push it over the edge to get your point across now I have learned that you have to fight for your love but one thing is for sure my partner is my lover my wife and my best friend and I know that she is behind me 100% so I don’t have to worry who is watching my back because I know that she would throw down her life for me and I her for her, as for control of a relationship I say" the control is in the middle and we both take it in turns to direct our relationship no one needs to control love, if you go out into your garden and watch the swallows (birds in pairs). You will say that neither of them lead the other they just follow each other no rebellion, like “I am going to do my own thing”. It should flow, sometimes it's a drip other times it is like Niagara falls, you have to follow your partners lead and they yours and sometimes boundaries are crossed some of those things you don't want to experience are actually ok or FANTASTIC
Trust, 50/50 , and of course communication understanding listen to them your partner and then your love blooms
