sunandbare
Posted September 26, 2009 by sunandbare

This one is to some (but not all by any means) male members.

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I’ve been a member of LG for some time now and during that time I’ve encountered, and often made very good friends with some wonderful female members. But some comments I hear from my friends show that some male members lack good manners, common courtesies and respect. Instead when they try Live Chatting with female members they go straight for the anatomical approach which does not usually go down well. And the same happens in messages. After all, who gives a photo to a total stranger about whom you know nothing at all?! It is a real turn-off (and sometimes scary) for many females. Other females will simply laugh-off such approaches as ‘another inadequate male fool who can’t get his leg-over for real’!

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Call me old-fashioned, call me soft  but the reality is that most females, not only the younger or more outgoing members, don't want to be treated as a piece of flesh; or worse still, someone to be taken advantage of. They like to be respected for who they are and what they believe and they like to be ‘discovered’ through interesting discussion. They don’t want basic ‘tits and pussy questions’ (excuse my directness ladies) but instead they prefer a more subtle approach and a bit more ‘je ne sais q’uoi’.

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The female psyche is not always the same as the rampant male and some male members should recognise this. The “wham, bang, thank you mam approach” can be a loser, a real turn-off, not a winner.

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I realise that most men who read this will not be the offenders but if you are one, please take note because if you don’t, you won’t gain many female friends here. But I fear that like so many of Pearlthong’s blogs, this one will have to be repeated at regular intervals!

Comments
ToBy01 wrote at September 28, 2009
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Great post Sun and so well put. I think that chat can sometimes be abused and mistaken for a place to pick up women for cam sex later. I have found that being polite and a gentleman and not always beingb focussed on sex make all the difference, treat everyone with respect and you get a long way, at the same time I am not naive and know that cyber sex carries on in chat and it should but that dosent mean that good grace and manner are no longer required.


As they say you catch more bees with honey than you do with vinegar.


Cheers


ToBy

ToBy01
extremegf wrote at September 26, 2009
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Very well said Sun!  Thank you! 


xoxo

extremegf
butterfly wrote at September 26, 2009
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Thank you Sun! for being such a gentleman, you have \"hit the nail\" on the head. There is a handful of some really great guys who have taken the time to get to know me - for that handful THANK YOU!


To the others - show some respect and treat us the way you would like to be treated.


 


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butterfly
missfoxy wrote at September 26, 2009
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Very well written Sun

missfoxy