I'm a newly wed only married 6 months and my husband wont touch me. when we were still daiting he couldnt go a single night without us having sex. when we got engaged nothing changed. during our engagement i got pregnant first couple of months when i was still small nothing changed. As time went on and my belly grew we had sex less and less even though he said i was more beautiful and sexier then ever i cought him looking at porn before he would even have sex with me. Since we got married, and i had the baby he wont touch me at all he has a hard time even bringing himself to kiss me and i have to beg him to have sex with me and when we do have sex he acts like its a chore i can tell he does not enjoy it. does this happen alot in relationships? How do i make sex with me more appealing to him?
I don't know if it happens a lot in relationships but (understandably) some women don't feel keen to have sex after giving birth so I have heard of occasions when it happens in that way ... but that's not your situation.
I think the most important thing right now is for you to talk to him about it. Try to find a time when you won't get disturbed - perhaps a special meal at home alone or even if you both go to bed a little earlier than normal.
I'd say that the problem is with him, not you, and you two need to find out what it is. He clearly found you very attractive before so I'm sure that gives hope that he will do again.
Good luck!
It seems to be more common than one thinks. After the woman gives birth, the husband looses sexual interest because she assumed the mother role. She is no longer the sexy kitten since she cares for a baby. Or the thought that a baby passed through the vaginal canal might turn him off as well, he might even feel inadequate by the mere thought of the size a baby represents and his own manhood. Visitor man is right, talk and discuss, ask if he woud like to spice it up with clothing Victoria secret, role play or any other erotic and sensaul games helping him getting aroused. He obviously likes to imagine it by watching porn. He has to find the sensual side in you again and this sometimes takes a little time. Maybe he needs more oral play, clean and erotic stimulation to get into it.
Good luck girl! hope it comes back
I have recently heard that men can also get post natel depression. But what ever it is, I agree with Mr Visitor that you both need to talk about it and you will need to be understanding and do not make any judgements. I hope you two can work it out and have a wonderful and fulfilling marriage.
I think a Woman feels very vunerable when she has given birth and mother nature needs time to heal both internally and to adapt emotionally to the new and precious life and the turmoil a baby brings in to your lives, if ever a woman needs love and reasurrance it is when she feels most vunerable, can I surgest that your husband starts to date you, like you did when you first meet, lots of extra care and attention, ie. to take you in his arms and tell you how much he Loves you and how very proud of you he is, generallly pamper you by doing the little things that mean so much like running you a warm relaxing bath, and perhaps joining you in the bath, caress and fondle one another perhaps a nice glass of wine, lots of candles, mood music in the background, hopefully you have someone you can trust to baby sit, so the two of you can have romatic meals out, go for walks in the country, connect with one another once more, I hope this helps with affection Sekmetxxx
This is just mean....seriously, you need to sit your man down, tell him what's going on with you and that your not sexually satisfyed anymore and you need some honest answers. You both need to be open and willing to compromise for each other, that's partly why you'se got married in the 1st place isn't it?
If that doesn't work then you need to go out and buy yourself a nice vibrating dildo and if he doesn't wanna help you cum then all you gotta do is lay back, relax, pull out your newly bought toy and help yourself to orgasm (it is YOUR orgasm after all; NOT his).
Maybe if he see's how much fun your having getting all horny and wet he'll just join right in......hehehe and if he doesn't then seduce him...hehehehe
Good Luck!!
