female orgasms

Ok, I know everyone will yell when they hear this, but is it very common to cum too quickly? My husband & I have sex & the foreplay is great but I can't even seem to get through that! I have to have him in me immediately or I will cum without him. I know its good that I cum everytime but I dont understand why I cum soo quickly?  would love to make slow love to my husband once in awhile but I never can. Any suggestions???

You have to be one of the lucky ones or your husband is as most girls have the opposite trouble. Have you tried masturbating before you have sex either by yourself or with your husband so as to reduce the sensitivity and then you may be able to last longer when you have intercourse. 

Or why don't you keep on having sex when you have an orgasm through intercourse, as you may end up having more than just the one orgasm which I am sure you will enjoy and so would your husband.

I have to say that your husband must love it when youse have a "quickie" as he doesn't have to worry about spending time to give you an orgasm.

 

I would have to agree with Tom.  I would say this really isnt so much as an issue, but more of a blessing for you and your husband.  I really cant give very much advise in regards to you, but if he just lets you orgasm and then enters you there is probably more where your first "cums" from.

 

Happy playing. 

One of the "advantages" of being married nearly 25 years is that I know EXACTLY how to make my wife cum. I know every little noise she makes and every little movement and I know what they mean. I know if I'm doing it too hard or too soft or too slow or too fast. Hence it is dead simple to make her cum. Can do it in under a minute (once she's got her head into gear).

She's not really a multiple kind of girl. Usually 2, one by hand and one when I'm inside her (again with a little manual help). She's never cum through intercourse alone.

However, it is also a disadvantage as it takes away a lot of the fun and it all becomes routine and automatic...........

Hi cookiegirl,
   I would not worry about coming, it is a great compliment
   to your man ,and you will more than likely come again during
     intercourse, we are blessed in that way us women.
       so enjoy you are doing nothing wrong, I know it is great
        when you both come togeather, but as long as you
         enjoy one another dont worry I hope I make sense
            Love Sekmet
        

Thanks everyone for your advice & thoughts!

Cookiegirl,

I think you are lucky to cum quickly.

MMA,

I wish my hubby would know as much as you do after 15 years lol

 

Coming too soon for a woman? I'm glad you enjoy and receive so much pleasure, usually its just the opposite. Your husbman must be very passionate? I'm not entirely sure how it is for woman but I learned to control orgasm and climax to carefull masterbation with and without partner. Maybe this will work for you. If I find anything else I'll let you know.  

PS Slow sex is so passionate and pleasurable, dont give up! Ooh just thinking about it?

Hey just by chance do you usually climax from the same positions or foreplay activities? And when you climax are you completely done or do you try to continue?

I am giving you a one point of view...

I've been with him over 20 years now - so I do wish he'd know how to please me by now, but he doesn't...  I wanted to get married to him at some point so I'm lacking of something for the rest of my life?

 

My husband is passionate  but I can never come more than once, whether it is before or after he enters me. I can honestly say that I do not masturbate! Why? I have no idea. Am I abnormal??? Also, I wouldn't even know how to begin to control an orgasm! Is it possible that you can control it??? I wish I could control it but I would also love to have more than one orgasm!!!! Any suggestions????

Cookie,

    No your fine. You are who you are. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

Cookiegirl,

i agree with you. Right now I think is there something wrong with me, when I can't come by him... even though I know it is him who should do something more..... so i think there's nothing wrong with you

Allthingsart good question... My husband always want to wait tooooooo long because of me - but that's not the point... i don't care if he come of not, just as long he would make me to come sometimes.....

Cookiegirl: i do masturbate, that's what's helping me in all this...

MrsX,

I do feel for you in your situation. Have you ever talked to your husband about this? Could it be that he doesn't know that you do not come or that he just doesn't care? I did go through that for awhile while taking meds. Hubby really didn't understand what the problem was & now I have the opposite problem! Good luck to you & keep me up to date!

I've read a lot about female orgasms. I wish, I could ask my female friends how they feel with their hubbies....

I know how to get orgasm on my own... so far hubby has been able to give me orgasms too, but.... now it's gone... he can't make me to come...

For me it looks like that he never knew what made me to come... and I'm not sure I want to teach him the way to make me come!